Tips for Social Anxiety: What the Experts Say

by | May 17, 2024 | Anxiety

Imagine entering a room and feeling like you’re about to give an important speech. For most, fear is reserved for particular occasions but  for those with social anxiety disorder; it’s a frequent, debilitating reality. It can arise from daily activities like making phone calls or small talk. Social anxiety disorder is a mental illness consistent with overwhelming fear of social situations. Individuals feel self-conscious, fear judgment, and often experience physical symptoms like sweating or a racing heart.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, around 15 million American adults suffer from this disorder.¹ It’s the second most common mental health disorder. Those affected are often trapped by negative thoughts and feel anxious about negative evaluation. Personal and professional lives are affected by this. Whether it’s a young adult starting college, someone practicing public speaking, or attending social events, social anxiety affects everyday life.

This blog provides practical tips for social anxiety disorder. We have coping strategies and methods to help manage and overcome social anxiety. We cover relaxation techniques like deep breathing, muscle relaxation, behavioral strategies like exposure therapy, and social skills training. We hope to empower you to challenge negative thoughts, improve self-esteem, and participate comfortably in social interactions. With support from mental health professionals and peers, you can manage social settings effectively, turning frightening situations into opportunities for connection and growth.

Tips for Managing Social Anxiety

1. Identify Your Triggers

Understanding common social anxiety triggers is important for developing effective coping strategies. Here is a list of potential triggers, along with specific examples relevant to coping with social anxiety:

  • Public Speaking: Public speaking often triggers intense fear and symptoms like sweating. Practicing in small, supportive groups helps manage these anxiety symptoms.
  • Making Small Talk: During coffee breaks or social events, pressure to chat feels overwhelming. Preparing topics beforehand eases this stress.
  • Phone Calls: Phone calls require quick responses; they trigger social anxiety otherwise. Using scripts or outlines for common scenarios helps manage this trigger.
  • Meeting New People: The fear of negative judgment often spikes when meeting new friends. It increases during professional interactions. Role-playing social interactions build confidence and reduce anxiety.
  • Social Events: Attending social events are difficult for someone with social anxiety. Bringing a friend or family member helps ease these situations.
  • Eating in Public: Eating in front of others triggers social anxiety symptoms. Gradual exposure therapy helps. Start by eating with trusted peers.
  • Being the Center of Attention: Situations with all eyes on one person increase self-consciousness. Celebrations and meetings are typical examples. Mindfulness techniques help focus on the present, not negative thoughts.
  • Physical Activities in Public: Going to the gym can be scary because you might feel judged. Try going when it’s not busy. Smaller group sessions also make it easier.
  • Professional Settings: A social interaction in professional settings can heighten social anxiety. Social skills training tailored for professional contexts helps manage this anxiety.
  • Academic Environments: College often presents new social challenges that trigger social anxiety. Situations like speaking in class or group projects may overwhelm young adults. Joining a campus support group offers peer support and coping techniques.

Recognizing triggers is the first step in overcoming social anxiety. These triggers are linked to specific social situations. Managing them involves specific coping skills. Techniques include relaxation, breathing exercises, and challenging negative thoughts. This process helps to improve one’s well-being.

2. Practice Mindful Speaking

Gradually exposing yourself to social situations where you need to speak is smart. Start with something small, like asking a question in a group setting, and progress to more challenging tasks, such as presenting in front of peers. Controlled exposure reduces the negative thoughts linked to speaking. To manage social anxiety, gradually expose yourself to speaking situations. Use coping strategies and build social skills through a structured approach such as these:

Start with Minimal Risk Interactions:

  • Ask a question during a team meeting or a casual gathering. This could be as simple as inquiring about an upcoming event or clarification on a project.
  • Initiate small talk during a coffee break. Discuss low-stake topics like the weather, current events, or common interests.

Increase the Challenge:

  • Join a support group where you can practice speaking in a safe environment. Sharing experiences with peers helps in managing social anxiety symptoms and overcoming fears.
  • Participate in a book club or a discussion group. This offers a structured opportunity for interaction, where speaking out is expected but not overwhelming.

Engage in Public Speaking Practicing

  • Enroll in a public speaking course or workshop. This structured setting provides social skills training and feedback in a controlled environment.
  • Volunteer to give a presentation at local events or within your support group. This helps in challenging negative thoughts associated with public speaking.

Apply Advanced Techniques:

  • Lead a small group discussion. This might occur at a professional seminar or a community meeting. Discuss a topic of interest with a small group.
  • Host an event or a gathering. Being the host will push you out of your comfort zone a little at a time. Allowing you to interact and manage the flow of the event.

Regular Assessment and Adjustment:

  • Reflect on each experience. Note what went well and what could be improved. Adjust your exposure to tougher challenges as your confidence grows.
  • Seek professional help. Therapy options like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and exposure therapy can be used to target specific fears and situations.

These steps gradually expose you to social anxiety-inducing situations. They provide manageable challenges that boost self-esteem. They also boost coping skills in social settings.

3. Expand Your Social Interactions Gradually

To manage social anxiety, consider small, manageable steps. Gradually expose yourself to social interactions. Use controlled settings to build confidence. Here’s a list of practical tips that incorporate a range of strategies for overcoming social anxiety:

  • Start with Eye Contact: Make brief eye contact with a passerby or a store clerk. This will help you feel more comfortable in social settings without pressure.
  • Greet Your Neighbors: Say a quick “hello” or give a friendly nod when you see your neighbors. This helps you overcome the fear of starting conversations. It builds a habit of engaging with others.
  • Engage in Small Talk During Coffee Breaks: Use short breaks at work or at social events to practice small talk. Discuss light topics like the weather, current events, or a common interest.
  • Join a Support Group: Participate in a support group for individuals with social anxiety. This environment creates connections with those who understand your experiences. They can offer effective coping strategies.
  • Practice Deep Breathing Before Social Interactions: Before a social situation, practice deep breathing to lessen anxiety symptoms. Focus on the present moment.
  • Attend Social Skills Training Workshops: These workshops offer tools and techniques for better social interactions. They help you overcome negative thoughts about your social performance.
  • Regular Physical Activity: Exercise regularly to reduce anxiety and improve mental health. Exercise is a proven technique to manage anxiety symptoms.
  • Listening in Conversations: Focus on being present in conversations by listening actively. Distracting attention from your negative thoughts works well. It enhances social interactions.
  • Set Goals for Social Exposure: Attend one social event or speak up in a group once a month. Gradually increase these as you become more comfortable.
  • Seek Professional Help: If social anxiety greatly affects your life, consider seeking professional help. Find a mental health specialist who focuses on anxiety disorders. They can guide you through therapies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or exposure therapy.
  • Practice Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Learn progressive muscle relaxation to manage social anxiety’s physical symptoms. Practice regularly in stressful social situations.
  • Use Positive Affirmations: Challenge your own negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Boost your self-esteem. Reduce feelings of being self-conscious.
  • Volunteer in a Small Group Setting: Volunteering offers a structured social setting. You can feel connected through shared goals. This setting is less intimidating and very rewarding.

The steps mentioned address social anxiety symptoms and offer practical methods. They help build social skills, improve well-being, and improve connections your in daily life.

4. Share Your Experiences

Connecting with others helps to manage and overcome isolation and fear. Here are practical examples of how support groups or online forums help in coping:

  • Sharing Coping Strategies: In a support group, learn new relaxation techniques like deep breathing. Others share methods like progressive muscle relaxation to manage symptoms at social events.
  • Role-Playing Certain Social Situations: Some groups provide social skills training in a safe, supportive environment. Members practice public speaking, making small talk, and maintaining eye contact. 
  • Group Exposure Therapy: Members participate in structured group activities simulating social anxiety-triggering situations. Under professional guidance, they gradually reduce their intense fear of certain social settings.
  • Celebrating Small Victories: Sharing successes boosts morale and self-esteem. For example, someone might share how they managed to ask a question at a public event. They might also share making a phone call to a new friend without social anxiety.
  • Discussing Negative Experiences: Openly discussing setbacks shows members that they are a normal part of progress. Sharing experiences helps normalize the journey towards overcoming social anxiety.
  • Learning to Challenge Negative Thoughts: Members share techniques for managing negative thoughts. They replace them with positive ones. Real-life examples provide guidance and resonate with others.
  • Finding Comfort in Commonality: Knowing you’re not alone is incredibly reassuring. Others also feel self-conscious. Many deal with low self-esteem. This realization will diminish mental illness stigma.
  • Exercise and Physical Activity: Groups might organize physical activities to improve physical well-being. These activities also improve mental health. They help manage social anxiety symptoms in everyday life.
  • Regular Meetings and Check-ins: Scheduled meetings maintain a routine, offering comfort and social anxiety management. Regular interaction builds a supportive, secure network for members.
  • Professional Guidance: Some support groups are led by mental health professionals. They provide high-quality information. They also offer evidence-based strategies to manage social anxiety symptoms.

Joining these groups is important for managing social anxiety. They offer a platform to learn, share, and connect. Engage with others who face similar challenges.

5. Embrace Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques

Mindfulness and relaxation techniques ease social anxiety symptoms. Use them daily for effectiveness. Apply techniques to everyday situations, like phone calls or public speaking. Practice deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation for immediate relief. These methods help manage physical symptoms and negative thoughts effectively. Here are easy examples of using these methods in daily life:

  • Deep Breathing Exercises for Public Speaking: Practice deep breathing before speaking to calm nerves and reduce anxiety symptoms. Deep breaths help with rapid heartbeat and sweating during presentations.
  • Progressive Muscle Relaxation During Coffee Breaks: Use short breaks at work to do some progressive muscle relaxation. This helps relieve physical tension and makes you feel more relaxed in social settings.
  • Mindfulness in Social Situations: Use mindfulness to focus on the now when talking to others, helping you worry less about being judged. This is great for overcoming fears like small talk or eye contact.
  • Yoga and Physical Activity: Add yoga or exercise to your routine for better mental health and less social anxiety. Regular workouts boost confidence and reduce daily anxiety.
  • Support Groups for Sharing and Reflection: Join a support group where mindfulness and relaxation techniques are practiced and shared. Feeling connected and supported by others who understand what it feels like to be socially anxious is incredibly uplifting.
  • Mindful Listening in Family Interactions: Practice mindful listening when engaging with family members. Makes you feel closer and calmer, making family events less intimidating.
  • Guided Meditation for Coping with Negative Thoughts: Try guided meditations to manage anxiety and beat negative thoughts. It is great for young adults in social situations.
  • Breathing Exercises Before Phone Calls: Practice breathing exercises before calls to ease anxiety and feel more at ease.

By including these mindfulness exercises and relaxation techniques in your daily life, you can better manage the symptoms of social anxiety. Improving your ability to engage in social interactions more comfortably will open windows of opportunity.

6. Challenge Negative Thought Patterns

When you catch yourself predicting the worst outcome for a social situation, challenge these thoughts. Replace them with more positive ones. Here are several examples of challenging negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones:

  • Social Interactions at Parties: If social events scare you, remember past fun chats and compliments. Focus on making friends and enjoying talks, not fearing embarrassment.
  • Making Phone Calls: If phone calls make you anxious, remember past successful calls or your preparation for this one. Positive thinking can ease symptoms like a racing heart, making you feel calmer and more present.
  • Attending Family Gatherings: Feeling anxious about family gatherings is common due to past issues. Before going, picture a positive chat with someone you’ve previously enjoyed talking to. This will boost your confidence and lessen your self-consciousness.
  • Public Speaking: If public speaking makes you fear forgetting lines, recall moments of speaking confidently or receiving praise for your skills. This approach helps conquer social anxiety and strengthens your skill in managing anxiety with preparation and positive thoughts.
  • Workplace Meetings: If speaking in meetings intimidates you, counteract those feelings by focusing on your expertise and past contributions. Tell yourself, “I am knowledgeable, and my opinions are valuable.” This can change your viewpoint, boost your professional self-esteem, and help you tackle fear.

For managing social anxiety, practicing coping skills like deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation before events help. These methods lessen mental and physical symptoms, keep you present, and reduce the influence of negative thoughts, improving well-being.


Social anxiety is controlled using effective strategies and support. Implementing these tips, along with ongoing education on anxiety symptoms and coping methods, will lead to noticeable improvements in daily life. Expanding your approach to include seeking professional help and exploring therapy options raises your ability to manage anxiety.

Engaging with therapists and considering different therapy techniques offers additional support, equipping you with more tools to handle social situations confidently and improve your overall well-being. Healing Psychiatry of Florida offers personalized therapy for social anxiety. Expert support and practical strategies help manage symptoms effectively. Access to support groups encourages community and empowerment.


What are some therapy options for social anxiety?

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is highly effective for social anxiety, focusing on changing negative thought patterns. Exposure therapy, which gradually and repeatedly exposes you to the social situation that frightens you, is also beneficial.

How can I stop feeling self-conscious in social settings?

Practice focusing on others rather than on your own discomfort. Engage genuinely in conversations, and remember that others are more focused on themselves than on judging you.

Can lifestyle changes help with social anxiety?

Absolutely. Regular physical activity, a healthy diet, sufficient sleep, and avoiding excessive caffeine can reduce anxiety symptoms. Participating in hobbies and activities that bring you joy can also help.

How important is it to maintain a support network?

Very important. A support network can provide encouragement and reduce feelings of isolation. This can be through friends, family, or support groups dedicated to social anxiety.

  1. Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Social Anxiety Disorder,
Anastasiya Palopoli
Written by Anastasiya Palopoli

Anastasiya Palopoli, a board-certified Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, has extensive experience in nursing and psychiatric care, with degrees in Nursing from UCF and Psychiatric Mental Health from the University of Cincinnati. Following a residency in General and Child Psychiatry in Florida, she specializes in treating Dementia, psychosis, depression, and anxiety through holistic approaches. Beyond her professional life, she enjoys hiking, tennis, and traveling with her family.